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All About Emotions and Feelings


Your emotions control how you think, feel, behave and the actions you take. They also affect your bodies and are the foundation to understand yourself and others. The capacity to feel and manage emotions is a must.

Emotions have a profound influence on your everyday life. They affect the choices you make and shape your life and destiny. The most important aspect of your mental health is to learn to manage your emotions. When you are aware and in control of them, you can think clearly and communicate well with others. Emotional intelligence is the first step to understand and use them for creative purposes.

Fears for example, usually relate to the behaviors of avoidance, are connected to pain and usually occurs in response to a specific stimulus. They usually manifest because of bad past experiences, internalization from parents, etc. But we can accept and express them appropriately when we become conscious that they put us on alert so that we can prepare to face a situation in a more creative way.

We all have emotional needs and in most cases these needs are for certainty: stability about food, shelter and material things. Needs for Significance: looking for recognition from others. And, needs for connection to a person, a sense of identity, values and ideas. In dysfunctional families these emotional needs are not meet. To become conscious about your emotions is the first step for change.

People find ways to fulfill these emotional needs in negative or positive ways. When you have an emotion you respond to that feeling. Learn more about emotions and feelings.

Transform your emotional states and feelings to turn pain into power and take better decisions to live a happier life.

General information


What are emotions. Definition. Three elements.
An emotion is an interpretation of an event and the feelings are the responses to that emotion. Three elements are: The source: an emotion comes from within rather than from observation. A response: the body responds with feelings. The expression: how do we express it.

Type of Emotions - primary and secondary
Researchers on emotions mostly agree on the existence of two types of human emotions: Primary and Secondary. A primary human emotion is the one triggered in response to an event. For example: Anger. Secondary human emotions types are the group of emotions that follow that types of emotions. If we experience fear , the secondary emotion would be : feel threatened or feel anger , depending on the situation we are experiencing.

Improve Emotional Health
An emotionally healthy person is resilient, confident, have control over their thoughts and emotions, can keep trials and challenges in perspective, and can build positive relationships with others. Emotionally healthy people generally lead a happy, positive, and productive. This doesn't mean absence of emotions. It means to be positive. Here are the 7 ways to keep your emotions healthy.

Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and manage the emotions. When we live with emotional intelligence we have the ability to identify our own emotions, understand them and use our emotions in a healthy way. Managing emotions is the key to live a happy because we can transform the negativity and create more positive emotions that serve us.

Emotion List

Negative emotions

They always exclude, are fueled by fear, manifest by harming, controlling and avoiding.

fear shame guilt jealousy sadness

Positive emotions

They always include, are fueled by enjoyment and joy. Open up your heart, make things better. They manifest by giving, helping, understanding and unifying.

love
happiness
hope
gratitude
confidence


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  • Worried Constant worrying can cloud judgment and you may find that you are not thinking reasonably. Focus on what is causing the worry and look at it for what it is. Do not try to overanalyze the situation or find solutions to it.
  • Sadness is not Depression Sadness arguably is a state of emotion that has a negative connotation. To be sad is to feel a kind of a normal response to events that are unwelcome. There is nothing amiss about feeling sad. On the contrary, to feel happy with no end is suggestive of being out of one’s mind. The common and standard human experience is a combination of sadness and gladness in desirable blends. Thus, sadness is just a part of a healthy emotional experience. .
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  • Grief Grief refers to the intense feeling of sadness or depression due to the death of a loved one. However, it is also considered as the usual emotional response to other feelings of loss such as losing a great sense of security, a job, or any valued possession. Every person who grieves due to any of these circumstances may experience a feeling of helplessness that can affect his or her health and future decisions in life. This emotional reaction can lead you to a tiring and stressful situation. However, it is not a sin to experience this dark emotion every now and then. With the right coping skills and mechanisms, it can actually help you prepare for a new chapter in your life.











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