Emotional abandonment is and emotional state in which people feel left behind. This emotions imprinted in childhood where a child felt abandoned by their parents because they were working all day, neglection, divorce, the death of a parent or because of a trauma (for example, they forgot to pick them up at school) and many other instances. Many people don’t realize that they’re feeling emotionally abandoned and instead, they might feel an emptiness inside, unhappy, or feel alone even around other people, but can’t figure out what it is.
Some symptoms of Emotional Abandonment
Some symptoms of emotional abandonment might include:
- Fear of intimacy
- Lack of communication
- Emotionally distant
- Anxiety of being alone
- Depression because they feel that they do not matter
People that have feelings of abandonment have created false beliefs such us: I am invisible, I am unlovable, I do not have support, I do not matter, I do not trust others. It is all my fault. The results of emotional abandonment are that a person can avoid relationships altogether or become attached to another who avoids intimacy. This way a person keeps perpetuating the feelings of hopelessness and unloved.
The cycle is: I was abandoned during my childhood, I fear intimacy, I will avoid relationships or become codependent. The person fears intimacy because of the fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. Fear of intimacy is a cause of co-dependency because a codependent person needs other people to like them to feel they are ok. They are afraid of being rejected and abandoned. Usually, they feel trap in a relationship because they do not want to be alone, and they are not willing to end a relationship even if it is abusive or painful
When a person feels emotionally abandoned might experience a significant fear of being rejected. These fears are barriers to meet new people and prevent the person to have an emotionally close relationship with another. Abandonment can lead to anger, anxiety, depression, fear of intimacy and co-dependency. One of the best ways to overcome this emotion is through professional help. There are also techniques that can help to release the pain. The emotion of Emotional abandoned is a wound in a person that needs to be heal.