Disappointed but not Hopeless: Tips on Getting over Frustrations
Everyone has already felt disappointed at any point during their lives. It is a familiar feeling that people feel and experience too often to the point of not having the actual need to define the word.
Disappointments may be caused by not meeting one’s expectations. Every single person has a specific set of standards. This serves as the personal quality control of the individual. People tend to measure up people, things, and events according to this set of standards. Failure to meet the expectations set results to disappointment.
Disappointments and Frustrations may refer to the same thing. If a person’s hope and wishes are not fulfilled, the result is frustration. When somebody unexpected, say a family member, a relative, or a close friend betrays a person or turn their backs on him or her, he or she is likely to feel frustrated and disappointed.
Disappointments can lead to depression and too much pain. But it is by virtue of choice whether or not to lurk into that thought for so long. There are options to get over such a painful feeling. Remember that pain is a choice and it only lives in the individual’s mind. The following might help in the prevention of disappointments or getting over it:
- From now on, make sure to air expectations, wishes, and hopes. Before one expects something from another, it should be made sure that the expectations, wishes, and hopes are properly aired at the appropriate venue. It will only result to grief and pain if the person who has expectations is the only one who knows his expectations. By telling these things to the appropriate person, proper adjustments and preparations can be made in order to avoid disappointments. Likewise, clarifications can be made regarding what is in store and what is there to be expected.
- Do not expect for something that is impossible to attain. Be realistic. Hoping for the impossible, aiming for the stars, and wishing for the unattainable is the sure shot towards disappointment. Assess the capabilities of the person first before expecting for too much. Expectations, after all, should be directly proportional to the capabilities.
- Confront the issue; tell the appropriate person why disappointment is felt. After making sure that the expectations are weighed and properly aired to the appropriate person, do follow ups. If ever reasons for disappointments are encountered again, then make sure to tell why it is felt so that improvements can be expected in the future.
- Give the issue a break, do not dwell into it. After telling your disappointments, let it be for a while. Everyone needs an incubation time to reflect and finally do something about it.
- Be positive and give benefit of the doubt where it is due. Instead of just blaming, learn to be positive and try to understand. Everyone is a possible source of disappointment, at any certain point in his or her life. There might be valid reasons for not being able to deliver what is expected, and try to gauge these reasons. Everyone deserves a second chance.
Learning to truly understand others is the key towards avoiding the pain and grief that excessive disappointments might bring.