Definition of Self-Pity

Self-pity is a psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not the situation and does not have the ability to cope with it.

Pity is characterized by a person's belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence , according to Wikipedia.

Self-pity is a negative emotion that paralyzes and keep people in victimization, pity can come from different sources: childhood experiences like having to make dramas to get attention, or even from parents who manipulated to get sympathy .

How Self-Pity affect our lives

Self-pity can paralyze you because you constantly feel sorry for yourself. Pity affects all areas of your life, there is no growth or enjoyment in life. People around you might feel uncomfortable because you are constantly calling for attention.

It also very dangerous because you live in a trap. You are incapable of coping with life challenges because you feel helpless.

Steps to overcome Self-pity

1. The first step to overcome pity is to take responsibility. Is to understand that you are feeling this feeling of helplesness so that you don't enter into a denial estate.
2. Start building self esteem. It is really important for you to start valuing yourself instead of feeling sorry for yourself and dwelling on pity.
3. Engage in an alternative therapy such as Emotional Freedom Techniques, or Self-hypnosis Techniques. There is an excellent hypnosis download called Victim Mentallity that can help you to feel more powerful, tough, firm but still fair and approachable. Your attitudes emanate from you and communicate to the subconscious minds of those around you.
4. Be patient with yourself and learn to be gratefull.

Conclusion

Self-pity is a negative emotion that can ruin your life. The best way to overcome pity is talking responsibility and building self esteem and confidence. Feeling pity , sorry about yourself will not do any good, it will keep you trap in misery and pain.

Some people have such a strong sense of victim identity that create a strong victim image of themselves that it becomes the central cause of the ego. See what you are doing to yourself. See the attachment you have to your victim history and the compulsion to complain and talk about it. Eckhart Tolle. From Stillness Speaks

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