Anger is defined as a strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.  It is an emotion that arise when an important rules that you hold for your life has been violated by somebody, including yourself.
According to the medical dictionary is an emotional state that may range in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger has physical effects including raising the heart rate and blood pressure and the levels of adrenaline and nor adrenaline.
Anger can be caused by external or internal events. An external event could be that you feel angry toward specific person , situation or problems. An internal event such as personal problems, past memories or even disloyalty to yourself may cause angry feelings.
Angry feelings arise in response to an injury. The external expression can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and public acts of aggression.
Anger is a powerful emotion and in general people hurt others when they feel this emotion. Angers leads to problems like aggressive behavior an even violence. We deteriorate our relationships , specially when we react toward others or situation in a passive-aggressive behavior.
For example: a friend wants you to be at a place at a certain time and you don’t want. So you agree to meet with the person and show up late, making your friend wait.
Anger also leads to physical problems, especially if you suppress your feelings. According to the University of Minnesota studies indicated that increases the likelihood of a heart attack and violence in families.
It appears that suppressed angry feelings is not the major factor, but rather the lack of control over the situations that cause these feelings which determines the long-term health effects of anger. Constant angry feelings also cause frequent colds, high blood pressure and many more diseases.
Steps for Anger Management
- Be aware of your feelings. Say: “Yes, I am angry. “. In order to identify the emotion you have to recognize your feelings.
- The second step is to take responsibility for your feelings. Some people or situation may contribute with this angry feelings but you have chosen to feel angry over other emotions. So, take responsibility for your feelings without blaming anyone or any situation.
- Know the causes. Think about the real causes . What am I feeling angry about and why am I feeling this? . Sometimes the emotion of anger is not about a present event, most of the time the event triggers an unresolved wound from the past.
- Release the angry feelings. Solve the internal wound by releasing the real issue about it . Write down what you are feeling, list a all the details that you can about your angry feelings. This is the best way to clarify the issues. Use any releasing technique you like . You can use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) , Self-hypnosis Techniques , or any other that suit you the best for releasing these feelings.
Anger provides and opportunity to heal what is hurting you and empower you to solve the problems involved. By managing and transforming anger and working with the underlying difficulties you are creating a better life. Stop damaging your relationships and your health .
Anger can help set limits in relationships and needs to be used with respect and wisdom. When you know how to respond in a positive way you can tap into an unlimited source of personal power. Managing anger can show you how to work towards your wants without rage, aggression or controlling behaviors.