Identify your toxic emotions – Repressed Emotions
Sometimes is hard for us to identify our toxic emotions. If we are not able to have clarity there is no way we can release our toxic emotions that no longer support us.
In the process of letting go of toxic emotions I have found that is a must to be aware of them. Sometimes we are so overwhelmed and hurt that is even hard for us to become aware.
Toxic emotions can be anger, fear, low self esteem, resentment , rage, jealousy, shame or guilt that all create negative feelings about others or us. When we are not able to identify our toxic emotions we tend to repress them. It takes a lot of energy to keep our emotions buried. How do you we know that we are repressing toxic emotions? Here are some symptoms:
- Chronic fatigue
- No apparent cause of depression
- Not talking about our feelings
- Pretending that something does not matter when it really does
- I don’t care attitude
- And so on.
The best way to have emotional freedom is to not only identify your toxic emotions but also to release them.
If we repress our toxic emotions we are going to react to events in the present with the same reactions of past events. We are going to bring our past to our present and this creates a suffering cycle that never ends. Our behaviour and reactions will have a negative effect on relationships and our life in general.
I found three steps in the process of releasing toxic emotions:
- Know what emotions are. Understand how emotions are created (emotions , thoughts and feelings). Deepak Chopra suggests that we define the emotions in an emotional vocabulary that does not represent victimization. For example: Feeling sad is a genuine emotion. Feeling abandoned, on the other hand, represents victimization. You become a victim because deep inside you believe that it is not okay to have needs. Everyone else's needs appear to be more important than yours. In this case, feeling abandoned is a toxic emotion.
- Take responsibility, as Deepak Chopra says: if you are waiting for somebody else to change so you can feel better, you might wait for a long time. You take responsibility by acknowleging that you have this feeling.
- Feel the sensations in your body and release them. When you think about it, were do you feel it in your body?. Place your hand on the part of your body where you sense that the feeling is located. Say it out loud: “It hurts here.” Breath and with every exhalation of your breath, have an intention of releasing that hurt. For the next 30 seconds, just feel the painful sensation leaving your body with every breath.
You can also write on a paper all the memories that come to you. Then, when you are ready you can burn the paper.